Should women make the first move?

According to Comte, society is naturally improving and with the improvements , comes change.  However, are all things changing? Should some of the things remain static? 

In today's dating scene, change has already happened. With gender fluid people, gay, lesbians and queers being outspoken enough to stand what they believe in. I have no interest discussing them. It's the old traditional dating that I've interest in. Should a woman make the first move? 

Naturally, if as a woman you need a man who leads, I'd be very cautious of making the first move. Call me a coward but there's no way as a woman I'm asking a man out as the first one. There's also no way I'm asking him to marry me. 

Reason with me here; As a woman, it's natural for us to want to feel desired, wanted and even chosen. If you ask a man to marry you, how is that feeling chosen? 

It's a common thing out here to say " if he wanted, he would" and girl trust me, if he wanted to ask you out or to ask you to marry him, he'd not lack a way to do it. I've interacted with men and they're very strong willed. They also go for the woman they love without giving it a thought. If he is there acting like he doesn't know what to do, then he isn't that into you. 

Men will hate on plus size women as a group and the moment he falls in love with one, he protects her and starts acting like he never did that. They'll hate on single mothers then bam, he falls in love with one and the tune of the music changes. 

It's only natural to say that men go after what they want and he isn't going after you, girl!!! Get back into the dating scene like you've never left. Adjust your crown and your man will find you. That man you're planning to propose to or ask out, has another man or woman. 

Do not allow yourself to be deceived by the world. It's either I'm very vain or traditional but i am not spending the rest of my life wondering if i didn't ask him out if he'd have. The idea of asking a man to marry me is actually cringe.. 


Have fun dating out there girls. Let him ask you out. If he can't, then  leave the lass alone for heaven's sake. 

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