SheSpeaks

According to Comte, society is naturally improving and with the improvements , comes change.  However, are all things changing? Should some of the things remain static?  In today's dating scene, change has already happened. With gender fluid people, gay, lesbians and queers being outspoken enough to stand what they believe in. I have no interest discussing them. It's the old traditional dating that I've interest in. Should a woman make the first move?  Naturally, if as a woman you need a man who leads, I'd be very cautious of making the first move. Call me a coward but there's no way as a woman I'm asking a man out as the first one. There's also no way I'm asking him to marry me.  Reason with me here; As a woman, it's natural for us to want to feel desired, wanted and even chosen. If you ask a man to marry you, how is that feeling chosen?  It's a common thing out here to say " if he wanted, he would" and girl trust me, if he wanted to a...

 As the years go by, getting into the dating pool should be considered an extreme sport. There are so many things that are not sitting well. Men want masculine women and women have become the men that they once didn't like.  Logging into my social media accounts have me either laughing myself stupid or just feeling bad for the people in the dating pool. What happened to honesty? Transparency? I think authors need to come up with a book that will be made law. Be honest with yourself and with whoever you're asking out. If you're attracted to people of your own gender, please accept it. What on earth is "lavender" relationships?  I would go on and on about dating and relationships but I'm too tired.  My only advice goes to the ladies. Please keep safe. 

 2025 is here with us. Isn't it sooner than we all thought? Anyway, welcome to 2025 and with all the dating advice I've been posting in the last year, I'd have thought you're well equipped to go date but here you're girl. What are you? A slow learner? Or too lazy?  In 2025, i expect every girl who wants to date to also try looking for money as hard as y'all are trying to look for boyfriends. I also expect you to prioritize your mental, physical and spiritual health. We all can't be having mad people in the dating pool.  This year, it's okay to be cautious. Tell a friend where you're going and who you're going with. I also encourage y'all to keep off your friend's boyfriends or sister's boyfriends. The  world is big enough to not dip your hand into your close circle's pot.  I'm begging you to be selfish with your wombs. Some of these guys y'all are getting babies with just make me want to weep. How do you get a baby with so...

 So you are back into the dating world or have been there for a while. What are some of the things that you feel are a deal breaker? What would make you leave and never think of coming back? Most times, i have found that giving advice to people is easier than giving it to yourself. So let me do you the favor of stating out the few things i think should not forgive especially in the dating stage. 1. Physical abuse “Do not put up with mistreatment. If you allow yourself to be mistreated, you will be.”   —Unknown If there is something that i have learned about people who physically abuse you is that they never change. The day he/she raises a hand to hit you is the day that you walk and keep walking not to look back. Normally, it  will be followed by excuses and at some point the abuser will try to blame you for their actions. They will then treat you extra ordinarily well and you will think that maybe they are a good person and you are the reason they hit you. The cycle will...

 Are you Kenyan guy looking to get back into the dating pool or are you from another country and looking to date a Kenyan? Well, you have come to the right place. Kenya is a beautiful place with beautiful babes and slightly stingy men. If you are a woman considering dating a Kenyan man, you might as well as be on your knees constantly so you don't meet the stingy, violent and controlling type; but then i guess that applies to any woman that is looking to date in spite of the country they are from. Now, what is it that should you expect from most of the Kenyan women? Here is a list of what you might run into while dealing with the so fine Kenyan women. 1. Tuma Fare This translates to 'send transport money'. Honestly i don't know how to feel about this statement. Sometimes i think a woman should have their own transport money but then the nonsense that most Kenyan men will put through, i believe women should be sent transport money of even a cab. It is also very common th...

  This is coming from a personal experience.  About four years ago i got pregnant while i thought i was having fun. I wasn't ready for a kid but i knew i would I'd afford one. What i wasn't ready for was pregnancy complications and a bonus baby. I knew i wouldn't afford two babies. I was also not ready to be told to stop working hard. With my job involving carrying around heavy items and organizing tedious events, i had to quit. That was mistake number one; cutting off my stream of income.  Mistake number two followed soon; Moving into his house. My ancestors are the laziest if they weren't screaming 'Do not do it' in their graveyards. I was in a man's house, with no source of income, pregnant and i knew he was not in love with me. Needless to say, i cried through the 8 months and did housework to the last minute of 34 weeks when i was admitted to the hospital due to high blood pressure. He changed his mind last minute and went to the hospital with me. I...