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Introduction It is very exciting when a guy asks you out on a date. With online dating becoming the norm, sometimes you just take the leap of faith and meet an individual you haven't met before. In our excitement to give love and get loved, we tend to ignore the red flags on a first date and if no boundaries are set, it won't get any better as the relationship progresses. The earlier you set those boundaries, the better for you.  Here are some of the red flags you shouldn't ignore during the first date. 1. Catfishing  The moment your date shows up and you realize that they are not the person they claimed to be, you should walk out. Did they claim to be younger? Prettier? In shape or even out of shape? Which information did they give you when you were chatting online? I am a firm believer of people telling the truth especially if they are looking for something serious. The fact that you showed up 20 years older than your claimed age or 50kgs heavier than what you claimed onl...

Introduction  So, that guy you like asked you out and you are here wondering how to get ready for a proper date. Whether it is your first time or tenth time, as long as you are going out with a new guy, then it calls for preparation. Things are changing and whatever worked two years ago might not work today. Here are a few tips on what you might need to get ready for your date. 1. Appropriate and comfortable outfit Ladies, i understand the fuss to look sexy. You want his eyes only on you for the entire date. Now, if you are not comfortable in high heels, don't wear them. And if you want to risk it, make sure it is a heel that you can walk in without stumbling. You don't want to make a fool out of yourself on the first date. If you aren't comfortable in a dress, don't wear it, if cleavage showing makes you uncomfortable, don't show cleavage. There are many ways to look sexy but that doesn't include trying to pull your dress down the entire time or trying to cover...

Introduction The rise of femicide cases in Kenya is alarming. It even more alarming that women are being murdered in broad daylight. Don't men have anything to lose nowadays? Just killing and throwing away the rest of their lives makes no sense. It's like we're living in a mentally exhausted and sick society.  We are only in February 2024 and here are some of the cases that have been reported on femicide in Kenya. 1. Starlet Wahu This was a Kenyan "socialite" who was found murdered in an Air B&B in Nairobi. Police reports say there was clear struggle between her and the perpetrator. She died as a result of excess bleeding. This girl was just 26 years while her life was cut short. The main suspect was arrested in a hospital. Hopefully she gets justice.  2. Rita Waeni This one should have shaken the nation but ignorance and probably the heat waves doesn't allow people to understand how disturbing it was. Rita was lured into an Air B&B and later murdered....

 Introduction Sometimes, we women want to paint red flags green. The fact thet you are searching for signs of whether he is into you or not is already a sign he is not. Men do go after what they want. Anyway, let me list it out for you; signs that he is not that into you include: 1. His Texts are as Rare as Unicorn Sightings If you're constantly refreshing your phone, hoping for a text from him like a parched desert traveler searching for an oasis, and all you get are tumbleweeds, it's time to face the harsh reality: he's probably not as into you as you are into him. Sometimes you are left on read for long hours and not just in one day, but this is the usual. No man is too busy for what he wants. 2. He Cancels Plans More Often Than a Flakey Meteorologist Does he have a sudden onset of mysterious ailments every time you make plans? If his excuse repertoire includes his dog suddenly needing a bath, his grandmother's cat having a birthday party, or a spontaneous urge to al...