How to prepare yourself for a date as a woman

Introduction 

So, that guy you like asked you out and you are here wondering how to get ready for a proper date. Whether it is your first time or tenth time, as long as you are going out with a new guy, then it calls for preparation. Things are changing and whatever worked two years ago might not work today. Here are a few tips on what you might need to get ready for your date.

1. Appropriate and comfortable outfit

Ladies, i understand the fuss to look sexy. You want his eyes only on you for the entire date. Now, if you are not comfortable in high heels, don't wear them. And if you want to risk it, make sure it is a heel that you can walk in without stumbling. You don't want to make a fool out of yourself on the first date. If you aren't comfortable in a dress, don't wear it, if cleavage showing makes you uncomfortable, don't show cleavage. There are many ways to look sexy but that doesn't include trying to pull your dress down the entire time or trying to cover up your boobs with your hands throughout your date. I know i sound like your grandmother but i am one that advocates for comfort and confidence. That way, you won't be very focused on your discomfort, but will be able to focus on your date. Observing people's non-verbal cues is very important and will help you know about your date sooner than later. If he likes you, he likes you, no matter what you wear. Make some effort though.

2. Smell

Girl, i hope you have amazing perfume that when someone ever smells it somewhere, they will think of you. Do not appear for your date smelling like you're from coffee picking jobs in the sun. Do you know, if you smell amazing people want to get a bit closer and even hug you? And if this is a guy you actually like, wouldn't be really nice if he hugged you and commented on how good you smell? Do not forget about your mouth  Brush the teeth girl.

3. Decide if you're coming back or spending the night at his place

I want to say good girls don't go home with him on the first date, but who am i kidding? You can tell by the energy off your chats and the looks when you gave ran into each other if you'd want him or not. If you have not met him physically yet, you've seen his photos. Now, for the latter, just lower your hopes and be ready for anything. He could be using photos from long ago or edited photos. Carry protection with you. 

If it's someone you know, decide from home if you want him to smash or not. Don't get yourself swayed. Make that decision when you're alcohol free.

4. Means of Transport

Are you taking your car? Are you taking an Uber? How are you going to get to the date venue? If he is picking you, on the event he is an asshole and doesn't want to drop you back at home, how are you going to get home. I want to sound like your grandmother here. Don't call me when he doesn't drop you home. I'd rather you request for Uber money just in case. Always go prepared. The dating pool now is full of all kinds of people. I can't promise you that you will meet all the good ones.

5. Meal Payment

I want to laugh here but i won't. It's sad to see yourself trending on twitter or TikTok because your date refused to pay your part of the meal and you couldn't afford it. You are shouting and insulting him for bringing you out and refusing to pay. Just to be on the safe side, have your card or cash with you. It's not the first time you're buying yourself a meal now, it it?

6. Notify a friend or family

Femicide rates are very high all over the world. It's wise to let someone you trust know exactly who you're going out with, their mobile number and what they look like. Remember, when you get home or to his house, notify that same person if you're safe. It's better to take caution.

Conclusion 

Go, have fun and do not ignore any red flags. Be yourself and let the world deal with it. Happy dating!!


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