Why Premarital Sex Should Be Avoided in Christian Dating

Premarital sex, often a contentious topic in modern society, is a practice discouraged within Christian teachings. For Christians, the Bible serves as the ultimate guide for moral and ethical conduct, including sexual behavior. Personally, i find myself contradicted because you could get married to a guy who has a few problems. On the other hand, having had sex before marriage, i found it very draining. It maybe pleasurable at the moment but it accompanied so many feelings and infections..

Here are several reasons, supported by biblical verses, for why premarital sex should be avoided in Christian dating.


1. Sanctity of Marriage

Marriage is viewed as a sacred covenant in Christianity, designed by God to be a union between a man and a woman. The act of sexual intercourse is intended to be a physical manifestation of this sacred bond. Genesis 2:24 underscores this: 


**"Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh."**

This verse implies that sexual union is meant for marriage, highlighting its importance in the marital context and indicating that it should not precede this committed relationship.


2. Call to Purity

The New Testament repeatedly calls believers to live lives of purity and holiness. Sexual purity is a significant aspect of this call. 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 instructs:


**"For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you should abstain from sexual immorality; that each of you should know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, not in passion of lust, like the Gentiles who do not know God."**

This passage explicitly states that abstaining from sexual immorality is part of God's will for believers, emphasizing the need to remain pure until marriage.


3. Avoiding Temptation and Sin

Engaging in premarital sex is considered a sin according to biblical teachings. 1 Corinthians 6:18 warns:


**"Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body."**

Here, the Apostle Paul highlights the unique nature of sexual sin, which not only transgresses against God but also harms one's own body. Christians are encouraged to flee from such temptations to maintain spiritual and physical integrity.


 4. Honoring God with Our Bodies

The Bible teaches that believers' bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit and should be treated with honor and respect. 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 states:


**"Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God's."**


This verse underscores the belief that engaging in premarital sex dishonors the body, which is to be kept holy as a dwelling place for the Holy Spirit.


 5. Strengthening Marital Bonds

Saving sex for marriage is believed to strengthen the marital bond. Hebrews 13:4 teaches:


**"Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge."**


This passage suggests that sexual relations within marriage are pure and honorable, contrasting with the judgment that awaits those who engage in fornication. It implies that the sanctity of the marital bed should be preserved, contributing to a healthier and more secure marital relationship.


Conclusion

A certain lady keeps asking couples to lay the sex aside. What else do you have in common? Even for non christians, it would be wise to try and keep the sex aside to find out if you have anything else in common apart from the urge to have your bodies intertwined. I like to believe that it would foster great friendship between two people that would only be strengthened by the sex. 

The Bible offers clear guidance on the importance of sexual purity, underscoring that sex is a gift meant to be enjoyed within the bounds of marriage. For Christians, adhering to these teachings is seen as an act of obedience to God and a way to honor the sanctity of the marital covenant. By avoiding premarital sex, believers not only align with biblical principles but also foster relationships built on mutual respect, commitment, and spiritual integrity.

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