Reasons as to why you should not chase a man

Introduction 

In this post, i will start by simply defining in my own terms what it means to chase a man.

Chasing a man means you are the one always reaching out, you are the one that is pushing for dates and you are the one that is giving 95% energy for anything to happen in that relationship. It's a sad reality and almost every other woman has found herself in a position that she wanted to chase a man. As a woman who has chased a man before, i will give  a few reasons as to why you should join a cult before chasing a man.

1. He will not change

Once you start doing the chasing and pushing for that relationship, do not expect him to just wake up one day and start initiating dates, getting you flowers or making you breakfast in bed. Chasing a man and starting a relationship with him is simply setting yourself up for a heartbreak. At the end of the day, you will want to blame him for giving you the bare minimum but does he actually deserve it? No. It's your own doing. Accept that you set up your own expectations on someone who didn't like you enough. It's easier to crush on him from a distance and get over him than to break your own heart.

2. If he wanted to, he would.

Every time you want to chase a man, please recite this. All it takes is a simple "hi" for a guy who likes you to ask you out, to get you flowers and even to treat you so well. On the other hand, if he doesn't like you enough, it won't bother him that he has not seen you for months or weeks. I find even the most introverted guys speaking and confiding in girls they really like. Do not let him make excuses on how busy he is or was. People make time for what they love. He should be able to spare twenty minutes for a call. He would text you back and he would keep in mind the things that make you smile. 

Say after me, "if he wanted to, he would".

3. Guys enjoy the chase 

I am not a guy so I won't dwell much on this point. However, i have 5 brothers and I've heard them talk. They enjoy going after someone they like. They love the look on her face when they get her flowers. Her smile when they do something nice. Unless you don't plan on anything long term, resist the temptation of chasing a guy.

4. You deserve to be treated well

I have to remind myself this as an outspoken and aggressive woman. I deserve to be treated well by someone who actually likes me or my sassy comments. I deserve to be hugged and a man who wants to be there for me without me begging for it. I deserve a guy who wants to just me smile and happy. I deserve those good morning texts without always being the one pushing for them. I've also realized once you chase a guy, he might be unbothered on even your sexual needs and i promise you there's nothing worse than having sex without an orgasm. The headaches and the anger is on another level.  Be kind to yourself and just don't chase that guy.

Conclusion 

If you want a one night stand, you can go for it. However, if it's something long term that you're after, if you he has your number and is doing nothing about it, girl let him go. Being single is way much better than being in a relationship with an unbothered person. You deserve everything good in a relationship. Good luck finding a guy who likes you enough. 💞